Hello! My name is Emily and today I want to share with you something that can be really helpful, inspiring, and can give you a completely different point of view!
Did you know that your wedding day doesn’t have necessarily to be like all the weddings you have already seen?
Did you know that you can choose to plan your day in a totally different way, focusing just on what you really want?
Imagine your perfect day… what would you do? Literally imagine what would you do, what would you drink, eat, what activities you would like to do… think about what really makes you happy. Now take all the preconceptions and rules that you know about a traditional wedding and forget about it!
Imagine a day totally based on what you want…
This is called “Elopement”
Wait, I know what you are thinking about…“I don’t want a wedding without my family and friends, somewhere in the world!”
Well you don’t have to, because this is not the meaning of Elopement
First thing first: What is an Elopement?
“AN ELOPEMENT IS AN INTENTIONALLY SMALL, INTIMATE, MEANINGFUL, AND AUTHENTIC WEDDING EXPERIENCE THAT IS A TRUE REFLECTION OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP WHERE THE FOCUS OF THE DAY IS REALLY ABOUT YOU TWO”
There are no rules. There are no obligations. There is no stress.
There is just what it really matter, what it is important for YOU
Let me give you an example…
Maybe you like the beach, and have long walk with your partner.
Imagine a day where you wake up in a lighthouse. Get a nice breakfast with your parents and friends (yes I said parents and friends). Then get dressed and smile… this is just the beginning!
From the lighthouse you move to a marvellous cliff with your future partner.
You walk a bit with her/him and you have time to share your emotions in intimacy.
Whenever you feel like, you can say each other yours vows. (you don’t have to do it is just a sample) or maybe you are going to say it during the ceremony, however you prefer. And the time arrived, your moment! This is really happening!
Your friends and family are there, laughing and crying with you. You got married! Open a bottle of champagne and celebrate!
Then, you move to another stunning location for some photos in a totally relaxed and fun atmosphere, all you have to do is enjoy!
What now? Happy hour time! Grab a drink and have the best time of your life with your guest and families 😉
The sunset is coming, and you are ready to move for dinner. It does not have to be in a restaurant if you don’t want to, it can be whatever you like!
A campfire, or a Pic-Nic, a buffet under the stars or in a covered place
I will never stop repeating this, there are no rules, no “it has to be like this”
It has to be like YOU want!
As a wedding photographer, I have seen so many times stressful situation during the wedding day, brides getting anxious for technical problems, time schedules to be followed strictly, rushing to do everything in time and often, unfortunately, all the effort was for the event
I personally think that, a day so important should be focused on you not on the event or on material things
Do you know that quote that says: “The less the better?” This is what I am talking about!
This does not mean that you can’t buy flowers, or decorations, or plan a style
I mean “This is your day, you are the boss, you say the rules!”
I would like to debunk some myths about eloping:
“They are just for two people”
“You have to hike mountains on walk in a desert”
“You can’t have guests”
“They are just for two people” “You can’t have guests”
Who said that? You can invite your friends and families! You can invite whoever you want
Of course being an intimate wedding, if the number of the guests is higher than 20/25 people can result difficult for you to manage the day without effort.
I know it can be difficult for you this, maybe you fell like you have to invite more than 100 guests because not doing it looks disrespectful.
But deciding to have an intimate wedding does not mean you don’t care about the people you have in your life.
It simply means that you made the brave decisions to focus on what really matter: you and your love for each other
“You have to hike mountains or walk in a desert”
Not true 😉 It does not matter the place. It can be in a town, in a cabin, in your house, in a park..
Remember “No Rules”. It can be wherever you like as long you like it, and maybe there is something meaningful for you in that place
So you see? Deciding to elope is choosing to give priority to what really matter for you
It gives you freedom to plan something special and unique based on your soul
It take off all the stress due to planning a big wedding, and all the obligations you thought you had to deal with
It gives you time to enjoy completely the moment and feel truly, authentically all your emotions
These are just few things that an elopement will give you
I am not saying elopement are better than traditional wedding . If you want a big party, with hundred of guests, and massive decorations go for it!
If you like it, do it!
I am just trying to show you that there is an alternative, that things can be different, that you actually have the power to plan your wedding day in total freedom
I am writing this article for every couple that is struggling to decide what to do with their wedding day
and for every future couple that want something unique and meaningful for their best day!
Want to know a bit more? Let’s have a chat! 😉